Two reasons for insecurity

Some of us feels that he or she should be "good", "successful", "happy" competent, poised. These are all worthy goals. But they should be thought of, at least in their absolute sense, as goals to be achieved, as something to reach for, rather than as "shoulds." The feeling of insecurity is based upon a concept or belief of inner inadequacy. If you feel that you are not capable to meet to what is required, you feel insecure. A great deal of insecurity is not due to the fact that our inner resources are actually inadequate, but due to the fact that We use a false ruler. We compare our actual abilities to an imagined "ideal," perfect, or absolute self. Thinking of yourself in terms of absolutes induces insecurity. A second reason to feel insecurity is lack of movement towards a direction. Because man is a goal-striving mechanism, the self realizes itself fully only when man is moving forward towards something. Man maintains his balance, poise, and sense of security only as he is moving forward like a bicycle. When you think of yourself as having attained the goal, you become static, and you lose the security and equilibrium you had when you were moving towards something. The man who is convinced that he is "good" in the absolute sense, not only has no incentive to do better, but he feels insecure because he must defend the sham and pretense. When someone called Jesus "good" he admonished him, "Why callest thou me good? There is but one good and that is the Father." St. Paul is generally regarded as a "good" man, yet his own attitude was, "I count myself not to have achieved . . . but I press on toward the goal."