When the failure-type personality looks for a scapegoat or excuse for his failure, he often blames society, "the system," life, the "breaks."
He resents the success and happiness of others because it is proof to him that life is short-changing him and he is being treated unfairly.
Resentment is an attempt to explain our own failure by injustice. However, as a salve for failure, resentment is a cure that is worse than the disease. It is a deadly poison to the spirit, makes happiness impossible, uses up tremendous energy which could go into accomplishment.
A vicious cycle is often set up. The person who always carries a grievance, and has a chip on his shoulder, does not make the best companion or co-worker. When co-workers do not warm up to him, or the boss attempts to point out deficiencies in his work, he has additional reasons for feeling resentful.
He resents the success and happiness of others because it is proof to him that life is short-changing him and he is being treated unfairly.
Resentment is an attempt to explain our own failure by injustice. However, as a salve for failure, resentment is a cure that is worse than the disease. It is a deadly poison to the spirit, makes happiness impossible, uses up tremendous energy which could go into accomplishment.
A vicious cycle is often set up. The person who always carries a grievance, and has a chip on his shoulder, does not make the best companion or co-worker. When co-workers do not warm up to him, or the boss attempts to point out deficiencies in his work, he has additional reasons for feeling resentful.
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