Many times we create confusion when we add our own opinion to facts and come up with the wrong conclusion. FACT: A husband cracks his knuckles. OPINION: The wife concludes, "He does that because he thinks it will annoy me." FACT: The husband sucks his teeth after eating. OPINION: The wife concludes, "If he had any regard for me, he would improve his manners." FACT: Two friends are whispering when you walk up. Suddenly they stop talking and look somewhat embar-ras.sed, OPINION: They must have been gossiping about me.
The housewife, mentioned earlier, was able to understand that her husband's annoying mannerisms were not deliberate and willful acts on his part for the purpose of annoying her. When she stopped reacting just as if she had been personally insulted, she was able to pause, analyze the situation, and select an appropriate response.
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