Do not kill your aggression, just direct it wisely!

The failure-type personality does not direct his aggressiveness toward the accomplishment of a worthwhile goal. Instead it is used in such self-destructive channels as ulcers, high blood pressure, worry, excessive smoking, compulsive overwork, or it may be turned upon other persons in the form of irritability, rudeness, gossip, nagging, fault-finding. The answer to aggression is not to eradicate it, but to understand it, and provide proper and appropriate channels for its expression. Aggressive behavior is so basic and fundamental that, we cannot feel or express affection, until channels have been provided for the expression of aggression. Providing a proper outlet for aggression is as important, if not more so, than providing for love and tenderness.